HAAAA!!!!!!!!!!! this was my problem too!, ok the selinoid is the furthest foward like beengood said, on the drivers side, just above the BIG A** ORANGE STICKER that says dont take out the fill plug and inturn, right next the the fill plug too. DO NOT plug it into the selinoid all the way back, that is the reverse lock out! i feel your pain man, i actually pluged mine into the wrong one at first and had to order a second one cause the first one melted in the reverse lock out! hope this helps and good luck man, its nice to know im not the only one confused about this!